In the absence of having a partner to help raise children, some single mothers find it easier to connect with their children and make a strong bond with them. However, there are some parents who struggle to connect with them for many reasons, whether that is due to not having enough time or the emotional readiness to do so. In this blog post, we will share some tips for those of you who are struggling to create a meaningful relationship with your children.
First, make sure that you listen to their thoughts and talk to them in a non-judgemental way. Children often feel that their parents don't understand their struggles, so by showing them that you are there to listen to them no matter what and that you are not judging them for what they want to share, they will be much more likely to connect with you.
Also, try to take interest in their passions. If your child loves sports, try to join in with them as much as you can or at least try to support them when they are playing. This lets them know that what they love is important to you and that you want to be a part of whatever they like. It's also important to allow them to develop their own interests, rather than forcing or pressuring them to adopt the same interests as you.
Acknowledge your child's feelings when they vent to you or confide in you. They are trusting you with their secrets and are being vulnerable around you, so having someone validate their experiences and emotions is monumental in developing a strong bond. The last thing that your child wants is to feel as though you don't care about their life or that you don't believe their emotions are valid.
Finally, an often-forgotten tip is to use technology to your benefit. Social messaging apps will allow you to keep in touch with your child when it may be hard to. However, try not to overdo it on the comments of their posts, which may be embarrassing and further alienate you from them.
At the end of the day, the most effective way to bond with your children is to be a good parent and support their journey towards independence.