Life as a single mother is tough, there's no doubt about that, which is why so many single mothers forget to (or aren't able to) fit time for self care into their lives. However, self care is a vital component to living a happy life. This is why we wanted to make this blog post, to help you find the time to practice self care and give yourself the love that you deserve.
You may ask, why does self care matter anyways? Well, taking time for yourself gives you the peace of mind to be a better parent to your child and ensure that you give them a safe space to grow. It is likely the case that you are the main or only provider in your family, so if you are not taking care of yourself, it can affect the others. The effects of ignoring self care can subtly affect all areas of your life, from your work to family to social relationships.
Now that you know why self care is important, it's time to focus on how you can implement it into your life. Self care comes in many different forms, including physical, emotional, relational, cognitive, and spiritual. Try to identify which one is the most important to you and/or which one you struggle the most with. It may be the case that you are not getting enough sleep because you are very busy and stressed. Or, it may be the case that you are struggling to maintain friendships. Whatever the case, knowing what the source of the problem is a major first step in the right direction.
It may seem hard to make self care a habit in such a busy and stressful life, but it can be done. One way to do this is by making a certain activity a daily or weekly part of your life. For example, you may go for a short walk everyday, during which you may be able to talk to friends or listen to music. This way you will be able to incorporate many types of self care at the same time, and can make the most of your time. You could also journal right before bed each night to collect your thoughts for the next day. By doing this, you may start to unlock what is really bothering you!
If you're worried about spending less time with your kids and the effects your self care may have on them, involve them with your self care too! They will be happy that you did!